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Do's and Don't's of Relationship
Copyright 2003, Ernest Quansah (Expert Relationship
Advisor)
Do’s are what
enhances relationships. Don’ts are what kill relationships.
Our surrounding is made up of different people from different
backgrounds. Our upbringing, past dating and relationship
experiences, etc. all mold our thinking. Even the consequences
from our own relationship choices may mold our thinking. As
a result, you may develop positive or negatives characteristics
from your past relationship experiences. Hence the experiences
will become characteristics you will take into the next relationship.
So in effect, whether your relationships is going to work
or not is predetermined. It all depends on the characteristics
you choose to take with you into your relationship. I say
this for several reasons. One reason is all human being are
capable of changing. As an adult you have a choice in what
characteristic you wish to sustain. It is safe to say how
you treat your relationship is a choice you make.
Assuming your last relationship
was a bad experience; learn not to take that experience into
your next relationship. There is a good reason for that. If
you want to find that special someone, it is best to introduce
positive characteristics into your dating practices. Here
is why. The human heart does several things. One of the things
it does is it acts as your guide. Your heart, believe it or
not is your compass if you wish to be lead to your soulmate.
Some relationship experts
refer to the heart as spirit, inner guide, conscience and
so forth. The true mission of your conscience is to direct
and teach truth. When you endeavor to doing things that are
right you are in effect following your conscience dictates.
Characteristics and habits of those who follow directions
from their conscience to acquire meaningful relationships
are such as: integrity, harmony, temperance, patience, thankfulness,
honesty, joy, love, goodness, forgiveness, humility, respect,
trust, understanding etc. I call these characteristics Do’s
of relationships. They are qualities that enhance love between
man and woman. These qualities predetermine how you will treat
your lover. Further more your characteristics also tell your
love interest what kind of man or woman you are. Those who
are authorities in relationships discovered the collapse of
most relationships and marriages are attributed to selfishness.
For example, the very moment you decide to enter a relationship
just for what you want, you have pre-programmed the relationship
to fail. Why? Because your intention is not about sharing
your heart with another person but to get what you want. Try
and have a relationship that is not me, me, me relationship.
This way you will have a greater chance of succeeding. What
I am sharing with you has been researched and proven to be
one of the best ways to find your Mr. or Mrs. Right.
Relationships are about
two people. Take into consideration your partners feelings
as well as yours. When you decide to enter a relationship
with positive characteristics you have pre-programmed your
relationship to work. Consider the words that represent positive
characteristics. Do you notice how they also represent real
love? Real love is absolutely needed in relationships. It
helps prevent you from emotionally injuring your partner.
The best part of it is you will not create a person who becomes
male or female basher in case the relationship turns out to
be temporal.
Fact, if you follow your
conscience or inner guide you will be directed away from sparking
a dead end relationship. You will be directed to find your
soulmate. Human beings were not created to be alone. Neither
are we here to have failed relationships. In case you are
asking your self, what if I go into a relationship with positive
qualities and it does not work? The answer to that is simple.
Remember relationships take two people. You may have good
intentions before interring a relationship but your love interest
may not. In the event that you missed the directions from
your conscience, it is okay. Remember this saying? If at first
you don’t succeed try again. When you try something and
it does not work, there is the likelihood that next time you
will use a different approach. Changing you approach actually
puts you in a better position to succeed next time around
provided you do not become discourage by giving up. It is
very critical you use methods that are proven to work. Finding
that special someone or your soulmate is actually easier than
you thought. I can assure you of that. There are fact base
and proven methods you can use to find your soulmate. Never
ever allow your self to be part of those who claim finding
a perfect companion is hard. They are people who have given
up and want you to become a quitter just like them. Create
a mindset that attracts success. Negative thoughts and discouragement
leads to failure. Positive thinking attracts success.
Negative characteristics
are such as: vindictiveness, discord, contention, dishonesty,
pride, hate, faultfinding, envy, gossip, disrespect, lies,
unforgiving, impatience, discouragement, selfishness etc.
These negatives characteristics are what I call Don’ts
of relationships. They are relationship and marriage killers.
They put strain on your relationship and love life. If you
are serious about finding that special someone listen and
follow your inner guide. Avoid taking negative characteristics
into relationship. As a writer and relationship advisor, I
try to help my readers by providing free advice on my Website.
The site also contains the most powerful relationship secrets
ever revealed in an e-book. Depending on researched and proven
facts will help you find that special someone. Even bringing
out the best in your dates contribute to helping you succeed.
Improve your chances of success by adopting and introduce
characteristics that will help enhance your relationship.
To get started, I
suggest drawing a straight line on a piece of paper. Above
the line you may list the positive words at the beginning
of this article. Bellow the line list the negative words that
represents negative characteristics. You may choose to include
your own words if needed. Now transform the words into action
in your mind. Pretend there are two people on either side
of you. One is treating you in a matter that represents the
words above the line. The second person is treating you in
ways that represent the words bellow the line. Assess your
feelings as to how you are being treated the two imaginary
people. Eliminate the negative words from your mind. From
then on try and follow your inner guide accompanied by the
positive words that illustrates positive characteristics.
Use it to enhance your relationship, love life or dating habits.
Remember if you want relationship that works, if you want
to find your soulmate, you must make choices that will lead
you to what you are looking for. Your choice of thoughts and
actions will achieve their appropriate results. Good luck.
Ernest Quansah is a writer
and expert relationship advisor, specializing in helping singles
and couples improve their relationships to achieve emotional
and physical fulfillment. He is the author of online ebook
"HOW TO IDENTIFY YOUR SOULMATE", and can be reached
at E- MAIL ADDRESS or http://www.soulmateinfoserve.com.
Visit his website for your free instant relationship advice.
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