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No Bad Dates!
Copyright 2004, Devlyn Steele
"Successful Dating"
Do a Google search for "dates from hell",
and you just might crash their servers. There are tons of
websites devoted to subject. One described a guy who talked
about his ex-girlfriend all night, then drove by his ex's
house a few times because he was "concerned for her welfare".
Another told the story of a girl who made another date for
later that evening, over her cell phone, during dinner. I'm
sure you have a few war stories of your own. You know what
I think?
There are no bad dates.
"No bad dates??"
you'd tell me. "You've obviously never spent an evening with
Mr/Ms. X who thought the silverware was speaking to them…in
Klingon". Maybe not, but so long as you were not in any danger
or got hurt in any way, it wasn't that bad. It probably only
lasted a few hours, and you must have found some humor in
that person across the table, waiting for the mothership.
Cross Captain Kirk off of your list and chalk it up to a learning
experience.
The important thing is to
not get discouraged and give up on dating completely. Stick
with it, and keep looking to make that connection. Here are
three quick tips:
Release yourself from expectation.
Never "expect" your
date to be "the one", no matter how cute or nice they are
initially. You set the date up to be a disaster by your unrealistic
expectations. It creates undue pressure and leads you on a
scavenger hunt for faults in the other person. Relax, enjoy
the process, and don't focus on an "end result" that you have
invented for yourself.
It's all about attitude!
Your mindset is what determines the quality of any experience.
If you approach your date with a good attitude, there are
no bad dates. Each experience is a step towards finding the
person that is right for you.
Go out on as many dates as possible.
The way to that right person is through a
lot of not-the-right persons. The more dates you have, the
more opportunities you make for yourself. Mr. or Ms. Right
will not come knocking on your door while you are watching
TV. Date, date and then date some more, the process is the
answer.
Meet many people that might be possible dates.
A positive dating attitude
gives you endless opportunities to meet the right person.
Don't rule out any method
or avenue, and try them all: speed date, people at the gym,
through friends, or online - even Aunt Millie's set up. Do
it all!
The Internet is fast becoming
one of the best and most accepted ways to meet people. They
call it online dating, but it should really be called online
meeting, since you don't actually date until you physically
get together. It is, however, a melting pot of interesting
people and opportunities. There are ways to meet people online
safely and with great success! Go to The http://RealtionshipTools.com and get your free
book, "Tools to Online Dating" and become a successful dater
with no bad dates!
Devlyn Steele ("America's
Leading Life-Coach") has been a public consultant and a private
counselor for over 15 years. A Cognitive Therapist, Radio
host and Columnist, Devlyn maintains a thriving practice in
Hollywood, where he counsels famous actors, musicians and
captains of industry. His new book, Relationship Tools, will
be available soon. You can hear Coach Steele live every Tuesday
on LoveBeat Radio 1310 KXAM.com 7-9 PM. Arizona Time. Visit
his website at http://www.toolstolife.com/
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